You may wonder what about those people who live secluded lives, the hermits of old or those living in the mountains searching for happiness and those weeding out ethereal bliss in isolated study in an old library? They all need the community and thought of human, also the time to reflect. We all regulate how much input we can ingest and process, and the more we are actually interested in something the more people tend to focus on the little details. When you are very sensitive to human communication, you actually need to take time off more often than not. Even the great American writer and transcendentalist Ralph Waldo Emerson brooded on nature in the midst of it to find out more about himself and share his thoughts with us all, his audience was very much in the center of society not on the outskirts. Many a like-minded writer fought with depression looking for some place where he or she could find happiness and transcendence from a world which did not seem easy. But I suggest that the reason we know about their thoughts is because they maintained their relationship with society and with themselves. And to really find answers about oneself and human nature as a whole requires one to relate with oneself and others because this is where the information one seeks is really to be found. You will nowhere find out as much about humans as in the company of humans or yourself. I have seen many a somber mood light up when the individual established better and more caring relationships with oneself and others. Suddenly there was so much more to be seen and found in little gestures or someone's whispered voice, which often provided a starting point towards a genera; interest in people, which automatically lifts up one's spirits.
Feeling low is often not a result of feeling negative about people in general, but of a lack of faith and confidence in the bonds that hold us all together in the long run. Trust has been shown to increase subjective well-being [DeNeve, Kristina M.; Cooper, Harris (1998). "The Happy Personality: A Meta-Analysis of 137 Personality Traits and Subjective Well-Being". Psychological Bulletin 124: 197–229]. Better and higher quality relationships lead to more happiness. This relatively simple but powerful key to happiness often goes unnoticed, but if you improve the relationships you have, you will experience comparably more happiness [DeNeve, Kristina M. (1999). "Happy as an Extraverted Clam? The Role of Personality for Subjective Well-Being". Current Directions in Psychological Science 8 (5): 141–144].
In other words, how you communicate messages with others, the bonds you share, and, generally, the relationships you have, not just with others but also with yourself, impacts your happiness. With practice followed by experience it is actually quite easy to find more meaningful relations than ever before. This will be covered in one of the coming articles.
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